After TFP: Post RadTrad Reflections with Dominic & Miss Happy Catholic
My journey wasn’t a straight line, and it wasn’t easy. I’ve gone from being deep in radical traditionalism as a TFP kid to facing a 10-year deconstruction process. I used to want to be a shining example of a Revolution-Counter-Revolution soldier.
What changed everything? Meeting my wife, encountering Pope Francis, and realizing that it wasn't just about knowing all the right answers, but about having a conversion through the heart. I call it "truth stacking"—holding onto the good aspects of things while confronting the problematic ones head-on. It’s not about throwing out the good with the bad. It's about being able to balance the messiness of life and cultural traditions, while still pursuing what’s true.
I also open up about the spiritual abuse I faced and the emotional toll it took on me when what’s supposed to be beautiful—faith—turns into something monstrous. My reflections bring up hard questions: how do you stay connected to the church when you’ve been burned by it? For Dominic, the answer was spending time in the desert, letting my heart heal, and learning how to accompany others through their pain without judgment.
Today, I’m with Pope Francis and his love of the Good Samaritan. We need firstresponders in faith. Like a paramedic rushing to help someone injured, we need to be present, to listen, and to support without judgment.
Introduction & Platforms: Mrs. Happy Catholic welcomes Dominic Doza, who promotes Smart Catholics, Trad Recovery, and other projects like Legend Fiction and Halo Zest. Discusses collaboration and vision.
Faith Journey & Deconstruction: Dominic describes his 10-year deconstruction journey from radical traditionalism, starting with meeting his wife and encountering Pope Francis, leading to a conversion through the heart.
Truth Stacking & Reflection: Dominic discusses holding onto good and problematic aspects of traditions, emphasizing "truth stacking" to balance beautiful and flawed elements without dismissing them.
Painful Experiences & Midnight Mass: Reflects on spiritual abuse and how to deal with when something meant to be good becomes monstrous. Highlights the importance of being in the desert and the healing process.
Authentic Accompaniment: Dominic stresses the importance of sitting with people in pain without judgment, reflecting on how personal experiences shape this understanding.
Defensive Postures & Real Conversations: Recognizes the tendency to overidentify with beliefs and defensiveness but values sitting with others in love and truth. The goal is real, human connection.
Liturgy & Life Games: Dominic compares life, the church, and relationships to liturgy and games, focusing on how they guide us. The challenge is to know when rules apply and when we need flexibility.
Personal Freedom & Rigid Structures: Discusses moving beyond rigid rules and scrupulosity, drawing lessons from his marriage and personal experiences about adapting to life, not just following rules.
Pain & First Responders: Reflects on how pain forces us to be present and dependent on others. Dominic promotes being a first responder in faith—offering support without judgment and letting people process.
Hope & Defensiveness: Emphasizes the importance of having hope in faith, offering advice to avoid defensiveness and be present with people, sharing hope only when invited to do so.
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The Whole Point of the Parable of the Good Samaritan is to show that Law has a hierarchy and as St Paul says against Charity there is no law. Meanwhile everything you have dating and marriage- when not being vague- flies against Traditional mores that protect Chastity even in Non-Catholic Cultures.
Our Lady of Fatima did say that most Souls go to Hell because of sins of the flesh.
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Now I am hearing classical Liberalism. (Pius XII would have been proud.) Scientific Progress requires that we have New Liturgy and etc. Well, I guess we forgot that Jesus Christ is the Same Yesterday, Today, and Forever and that the Church exists in Eternity, not in the "Now" of Human Zeitgheist. Moreover, the Liturgy was not the product of 200 years ago, but comes to us from Apostolic Times. If you really do not know anything about history or the development of the Roman Liturgy- or have been imbibing ideas from Modern "Liturgists" who are equally ignorant, then the best thing to do is not make a total ass of yourself, and act as though there is nothing ontological in the Representation of the Eternal Sacrifice consummated in Time at Calvary but ever present in Eternity.
Yes, apparently in your youth you had a very superficial education, with theology little advanced from the Basic Baltimore Catechism.
As far as "Dating" is concerned, the Modern World doe shave it all wrong, and Traditional Courtship is the best preparation for Holy Matrimony. Marriage- and this might be news to you- is not a recreational activity. It is about the begetting and rearing of as many children God is pleased to bless you with, and Natural Family Banning Notwithstanding.